Genealogy: Where you confuse the dead & irritate the living....

Surnames: Calaway, Dunn, Evans, Johnson, Lindsey, Rollins, Short & Williams

States: Arkansas, Georgia, Kentucky, Mississippi, S. Carolina, Tennessee, Texas

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Ancestor Approved Award....

OK, I'm a terrible person....its been eons since my last post & I am thoroughly ashamed of myself for letting it go this long without posting. Especially since Joan of Roots n' Leaves was kind enough to give me the "Ancestor Approved Award". I believe I am supposed to ......list ten things you have learned about any of your ancestors that has surprised, humbled, or enlighten you and pass the award along to ten other bloggers who you feel are doing their ancestors proud. Hmmm, that's going to be kinda hard for me I think, but here I go.....

1. In reading some old letters that my maternal grandfather wrote to his soon to be 2nd wife, well let's just say he was quite the romantic guy. Who would have guessed. lol

2. In reading those same letters, I discovered that even though he left school in the 4th grade (due to having to go to work to help the family out) he was a very smart man. And I'm very proud of him & what he accomplished in his life-time.

3. I found out the reason why my own father left school in the 10th grade. My grandmother & grandfather could not afford to send both him & his sister to school. So to give his little sister, who was 8 years younger, the chance of an education he quit school. And to the day she died, she never forgot what a sacrifice he made for her.

4. Through out the years, we had always been told that my maternal great grandmother Lindsey was a Pentecostal preacher. So of course when I found a couple of photos of her holding a book in a prominent way in these photos, I just took it for granted that she was holding a Bible. Wrong! Turns out, after looking at the photo with a magnifying glass, it is a dictionary that she is BOTH photos. I'm going to say the photos had to be taken several years apart. Just why she wanted to be holding a dictionary, I don't have a clue.

5. Also, I have been quite surprised at the number of female relatives who have gotten married around the age of 15 - 16. Yet the males in the families tend not to get married until they are in their 30's a lot of the time. You'd think they must have had been married before, but so far I haven't found that to be true.

6. OK, speaking of marriages, it has been hinted within the family that my paternal grandfather had a child before he married my grandmother. (((pssst, we'd always heard he was a bit wild, you know? lol))) Then one day I was talking to my older sister & that subject came up. That's when she mention that Granddaddy "had" been married & divorced before meeting our grandmother. She had seen the divorce papers. Whoa! OK, now that was news to me. And the kicker of all of that? I found out in my research that yes, he had been married before, not once but TWICE before meeting our grandmother. lol

7. I discovered that every time I find where some relative died at birth, or at a very young age, I just want to cry. It just saddens me to know that they didn't get to experience life that we often take for granted.

8. My Aunt Helen had 3 sons who joined the military back when WWII & the Korean War was going on. I'm very proud of their military careers. One even went on to work for the CIA. One was a MP & a sharpshooter. And one had such a hard job that he was required to perform in the war, yet he was a very gentle man. I would love to know more about their service careers, but sad to say they are gone now. I am very proud of all of my relatives who served in the military.

9. And for me, it is always heart breaking to disprove those family folklores that have been passed down through the generations. Sometimes you just don't want to tell anyone of your findings. ***sigh***

10. Then lastly, in a way, it saddens me that I never got to meet all of these people that I have discovered in my research. I often wonder what their thoughts were, what their lives were like, what did they do for fun, what did they look like, etc..... And I think that "is" why I do genealogy, so they aren't forgotten.

WOW That wasn't as hard as I thought it was going to be. :-) Now I know I am supposed to pass this award on to 10 more people, but since I am SO late it doing it, I think I'll pass on that. Just know I am honored to receive the award.....thanks Joan! Heck, it humbles me to know that anyone even follows my Blog. And I promise I'm going to try & do better with my posting.

Later, Deb


Greta Koehl said...

Fascinating list! And I have the same reaction as you do when I find relatives who died young.

Deb said...

Thanks Greta! I know, so sad on those who don't make it. There is a group photo of my Mom's parents & their kids. And when my sister saw it, she pointed to one young girl & said she looked like me. Come to find out, this girl died about a year later (at the age of 12) due to injuries she suffered from falling into a fire. I was heartbroken when I heard that! :-(

Rose Mary said...

This is such a great post, Aunt Deb. I can relate to so many things that you posted. I have found so many tidbits that made me laugh...and then there were others that I thought, "Oh, no!"~surely this is not my family, LOL! And there have been several that have made me cry, too.

Thanks for sharing all of these~I didn't realize that grandpa had quit school in the 10th grade--or a few other things that you mentioned.

Deb said...

Thanks Mary! Yeah, genealogy can really get to you at times. Though we might not get to meet some of our ancestors, that still doesn't mean we can't get to know them. And I'm honored that I have the chance of telling their stories so that they are not forgotten. :-)

I thought y'all knew that about Daddy. But yeah, times were so hard for them at that time, they just didn't have the money to send both them to school. He was one very special man/brother/father/grandfather/friend. :-)

Lori said...

Wonderful post, Deb! I can relate to your feelings of sadness. I keep telling myself that one day, I am going to sit down and meet all my wonderful ancestors and have all my questions answered! :)

Deb said...

Thanks Lori....& me too, can't wait to meet all of those who have gone before us. :-)

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